Iretioluwa Oba-Okojie shares missing Ingredients in sexual intimacy

When most people think of great sex, they focus on technique — what to do, how to do it, and when. But according to Iretioluwa Oba-Okojie, a certified sexuality coach and analyst, the foundation of satisfying intimacy is not physical. It is emotional.
“People often focus so much on performance that they forget the real magic lies in connection,” she explains. “Without emotional safety, even the best techniques fall flat.”

Oba-Okojie, who founded TalkSexWithIreti in 2019, has worked with over 2,000 individuals and couples. She guides them toward healthier sexual and emotional relationships by helping them move beyond shame, societal expectations, and surface-level attraction. Her focus is on building vulnerability, openness, and trust.

She believes emotional connection is the missing ingredient in many modern relationships. “Great sex is about feeling seen, heard, and safe,” she says. “When partners create a non-judgmental space for each other, intimacy flourishes naturally.”

In a world where physical intimacy is often hypersexualized but emotionally disconnected, her perspective stands out. She encourages couples to talk openly about their desires, boundaries, and emotional needs. To her, these conversations matter just as much as discussions about physical pleasure.

Her upcoming sex education event will focus on this very topic. “This is what we’ll be diving into at the event,” she says. “How to move beyond the act itself and start building intimacy that truly satisfies.”
With a warm, engaging approach, Oba-Okojie offers a fresh voice in the sexual wellness space. Her sessions are known for combining knowledge with practical tools that help people feel more confident and emotionally aware in their intimate lives.
For her, the future of sex education is clear. It must include emotional intelligence. “True intimacy isn’t about performance,” she emphasizes. “It’s about presence.”

As people continue to search for real connection in today’s fast-paced world, Oba-Okojie’s message is a timely reminder. The heart of great sex does not start with the body. It begins with the mind and even more importantly, with the heart.