DESTINY CATALYST with UDEME ARCHIBONG firstname.lastname@example.org
The root of a plant is critical to its survival and thriving. Though the root is invisible; buried deep within the soil it determines the quality of the fruits which is visible. The depth of the root determines the height the plant will attain. The root also has an absorbing capacity; it absorbs nutrients and moisture from the soil from which it is planted and these are vital to the growth and development of the plant and these determine the quality of the fruit. So it applies; the root of success is self concept. Self concept has its origin from within but it showcases itself visibly for all to see in the divers’ areas of life. The greater the self concept you possess the greater the height of success you will attain. Self concept which is rooted inwards has an absorbing capacity that draws its influences from sources within the environment that you are in. And these sources in the environment that you permit to be an influence in your life will determine if you will produce fruits of success or fruits of failure.
Self concept is your entire belief structure acquired from infancy upwards; it is the belief you have about yourself, your abilities and your world. It is the seed that sprouts to produces our performance in every area of life and our effectiveness through life. Self concept is the forerunner of all behaviour or response to any given event or situation we encounter through life. You can never rise above the self concept within. Self concept is the regulator that determines your performance or behaviours which produces results in every area of our lives.
Self concept could be termed the triangle of human effectiveness; composing of three parts. At the bottom part of the triangle is self ideal. Self ideal is the perfect person you want to be in every aspect of your life. It the kind of person you admire most and aspire to become. If you do not have a clear and a positive description or vision of the qualities you want to possess and the kind of life you want to lead, the two sides of the triangle which comprises of self image and self esteem will be erroneous, distorted and negative and this will give rise to personality problems and consequently a failure ridden life. People with high self ideal live their lives on a higher level. The live lives based on the highest standard possible and they never compromise on those standards. In fact, the higher the self ideal the higher will be the standard you set for yourself. These categories of people perceive themselves to be deserving of success; they believe and expect that they are destined to succeed in everything they do and in every aspect of life. These people do not sell themselves short and they perceive their lives as being valuable and worthwhile and indispensable to the world.
Self image which is the mental picture or the “inner mirror” you have of yourself and your world. It is the way you see yourself and how you think about yourself. It is the “mental portrait” that you have carefully designed or created in your subconscious mind about yourself. In every situation and event of your life you look at the “inner mirror” to determine how to behave; respond; react and perform. Self image is the performance gauge of life. You cannot consistently perform or behave any differently on the outside than the self image you uphold on the inside.
Self esteem is the emotional aspect of your personality structure; it is how you feel about yourself. Self esteem is the ability to like yourself or not and it is also the ability to accept yourself or not. Self esteem is the foundation stone that determines the quality of your relationships and the level of happiness or misery you experience through life. A positive self esteem stems from the capacity to love and accept yourself; it is the feeling you have of yourself as a valuable and worthwhile person. Self esteem hinges on two poles; how much you love, respect and value yourself is determined by how much you love, respect and value people; how much you love, respect and value yourself will determine how much people will love, respect and value you. The more competent and capable you are the more you feel good about yourself and the more you like yourself the greater the confidence and competence level.
When self image and self esteem harmonises with self ideal it produces excellence and effectiveness.
In the words of Florence Shinn, “There is a place that you are to fill and no one else can fill, something you are to do, which no one else can do.” Therefore, you are the most important person in your world.