Put a smile on her face
By Eudora Ndubisi
Last week we wrote on what men appreciate or need to see in their women. Today it’s the turn of the women, what they desire in their men.
After a lot of research including Steven Aitchison creator ‘change your thought’ (CTY) write-ups, the following values we gather are what our women need in their men:
Qualities a Woman Looks for in her Man
We all have good qualities and bad qualities, but are there universal qualities that women look for in their partners? Yes;
I did a lot of asking around, searching the internet and reading and came up with the following qualities that a woman looks for in a man; (In no particular order):
Capable to Protect: According to women we spoke with they want to know their partner will be able to protect them physically in times of danger or trouble. One lady put it like this, “it’s not that we are weak or something, it’s just a matter of feeling and knowing that he is there willing and capable of defending and protecting me at all costs, gives us women a little more peace of mind.”
Be Honest: This is high up on the list and is a must for guys. When I say honest I mean being honest about everything. If your partner asks you ‘Do you like my hair’ a response could be ‘I like it but I preferred it when it was longer or shorter.’ When you are honest about everything you will get a reputation for being honest and you will get more respect and gain trust a lot quicker from her. If you are found out with one lie then the trust will be withdrawn and its always so difficult to regain.
A Get up and go: Women don’t like men who have no motivation to do anything with their lives. They want a man who has passion and has goals in life and has got the motivation to follow up their dreams to the conclusive end.
Trusting: Believe in your wife/girlfriend, supporting and encouraging her in every step of her upward climb in life.
Sense of Humour: This one obviously depends on each couple as everybody has a different sense of humour but women like men who can make them laugh. That’s not to say you have to be like Clint the Drunk or Robin Williams, just someone who has a sense of humour and exercises it often.
Reliability: This is another high up on women’s list. You’ve got to be reliable if you want your partner to stick with you for the long term. If she has an evening meal planned for you and you promised you’ll be home by 7pm and you come strolling in at 8pm, this is not being reliable. Yes, work is important but more important is the woman who loves you enough to prepare a special and made an effort on a Friday night.
Commitment: An absolute must for any long term relationship. If you are not committed then there will always be that little doubt in the back of her mind asking if you are really serious about the relationship and at what part would you just opt and go.
Respect: There’s no question of this, if you disrespect her you may as well throw the relationship out of the window right now. It’s not only respect for her but its respect for yourself as well. If you let people walk all over you then you are not respecting yourself and this is a turn off for women.
In Tune with Her Feelings: For the old fashioned man out there one of the main things you were missing was the ability to stay in tune with your partners feelings. If you are attuned to your partner’s feelings then it shows respect, caring and love. That does not mean allowing your woman to walk all over you. No! It just means you are in touch with her, and you know how to handle the emotions, upsets and excitement etc.
Attractiveness: This is something you are born with and it’s also something that is very subjective. Everyone has an attractive feature about them and rest assured someone will be attracted to you because of it. However if you let yourself go and don’t really care about yourself, you’ll be dropped like a hot potato, because it may reflect on her on the long run.
Assertiveness: Woman can stand up for themselves very well but they still like a man to be assertive as well. Women don’t like weak men, so grow a pair and stand up for yourself and your wife.
Faithfulness: Shouldn’t even have to be said here, because it should come naturally, but so many men think they can get away with being unfaithful and it should not affect their women. You will never be respected once you’ve been unfaithful and there is absolutely no excuse for it.
For a better, sweeter, richer relationship and a happy married life, try these and see, if you will not be grateful.
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